Baaa. LOL

BTW the wife got the new parenting magazine in (her mom bought a sub) and it says the reason why kids teeth are bad recently is because people prefer their water without fluoride and they recommend your kid brush his/her teeth with fluoride toothpaste at the age of 3 and on. My kid swallows it and will not spit it out. He is almost 3 and his teeth are white. We brush 1 time a day and sometimes 2 if he needs it.

Don't you know that the nanosecond that water is in your mouth the fluoride has a chance to penetrate? Well then, I guess when my dentist says to keep the tray in my mouth for a minute, I will just explain that a nanosecond is all that is needed. Who the heck swishes tap water in their mouth anyhow for that extra fluoride boost. 😕

im sort of lucky in terms of fluoride as when i was younger i washed my teeth with water and our old house had its own pump so the water wasn't fluoridated and my teeth are fine. sadly my parents split and we moved into town(both worse for unrest and fluoride >:( ) im going to get a filter so i dont have that problem.

For the last 8 or so days I've been getting this msg nearly every day around the same tine 1700hrs (5:00pm; + or - an hour).
this is it;

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User aprepper_admin already has more than 'max_user_connections' active connections [1203]

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Has any one else had this hassel or is just me????

Haven't heard of anyone else getting that message lately FNQ but "SQL ERROR [ mysqli ]" is a common error for the phpBB software that powers this bulletin board. It is a glitch that might disappear as quickly as it appeared. Let's hope so.

Oh I have to do this one.....

What pi**s me off... My husbands best friends girlfriend, who seems to be as bright as the grey crayon in my children's crayon bucket. They have been together for three years and in that three year's she has had six jobs, in the bottom of there apartment building video store, in which she got fired for never showing up on time. Hasn't worked in a year, doesn't want to. Thinks that her man should just "take care" of her. So although he works 12 hours a day and most weekends to pay for her high cost of living and her "allowance", because his money is her money but her money is her money. How does it effect us, besides the fact that my husband and him run a business together, he is really into the prepping stuff, but she is total dead weight. One time we went hiking with them and after a half an hour she "Passed out" apparently, and he had to carry her back to the car, although she is a master manipulate and I highly doubt it was real medical emergency. She won't even take a bus to go to school or get a job because someone will rape her, not kidding, or at least that's what she tells her boyfriend. Stupid STUPID STUPID STUPID STUPID. And I quote, "Yah, I'll get a job when you get me a car and my license." My husband will not invite him to our prepping meetings for that one reason! His stupid lazy girlfriend, I don't know how people get sucked in to taking care of these dependent life sucking individuals. I shouldn't be so hard, I'm pretty sure she has a severe selfishness disability, but man she PI**S ME OFF! If SHTF she will expect everyone else to take care of her, and surprise, nobody will.

Every organism works on a positive return basis. What I mean by this is that everything it does... it does because it PERCIEVES the return it gets to be a positive. No matter what you may see in your brother's mind he is in some way getting a positive return from his relationship. Perhaps it meets a psychological need. Perhaps he feels to need to protect or rescue or it is an ego perk... WHATEVER IT IS... to HIM he gets something that makes it all worthwhile. Sad... but true. Eventually he will tire of it...but the behavior will probably repeat.

Indeed Sad, but indeed true. Thanks for putting it in that perspective for me, I have had a coffee and am less pissed off. : )

So Mountainjac I take it you don't much care for your husband's best friends girlfriend. Look on the bright side, she is not family! Yet. I don't necessarily agree with JAB's assessment. Although JAB has a point that past behavior is a predictor of future behavior. This is not always the case. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that are less than ideal. We become blinded by emotion and personal feelings towards others. At the same time we feel trapped in the situation with them and obligated to them. However sooner or later we wake up and move on. Then some of us developed the attitude "once bitten twice shy" and look on the whole episode as a hard learned life lesson. So Mountainjac there may still be hope for your husband's best friend, hopefully he will wake up and move on.

I sure hope so! It pains me to see someone who is such a hard worker, and so nice being so taken advantage off. He does frequently say that if he wasn't worried she would off herself, he would be out of there. In my mind, that's emotional abuse.

If she has indeed stated that she would harm herself, if it happens again tell him to call the police and they will pick her up and take her to hospital for an assessment. The only person that is responsible for her life is herself. If she has in fact made that statement with a view to control and manipulation your friend should talk to a councillor and get her out. The behavior will only escalte and become more ingrained in both of them. She needs to go... period.

Agreed. I consider it to be abuse if you are always threatening your significant other with suicide when things get rough. I am a pretty reasonable, easy to get along with person, but this really makes me irate. To see a friend treated in such a manor is almost unbearable. Good news is, he is going to counseling even though she refuses. I am hoping some professional will be able to make clear what his family and friends seem to not be able to get across.

The behavior you describe above is generally considered to be part of a psychiatric diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. This is a condition that results from extremely poorly developed coping mechanisms and results in floridly manipulative behavior sometimes almost childish in the level of sophistication. They are also generally based on making the other person responsible for them and use guilt and consequence to a large extent... meaning if "I do this it will be your fault". When I said "She has to go" in my above post I meant he has to get rid of her...and the sooner the better for him. He will never "win".

I guess we all three agree on this point. The behavior will only get worse and escalation is not in the best interests of either party. Perhaps the best caring act that he could perform would be to let her go.

Venting actually became educational for once. Thanks for the input and the common sense. Greatly appreciated.

Something that always makes me loose my mind is when i put something in a specific spot so i dont loose it and someone else moves it.....and then they dont remember where they put it! Also repeating myself !