We had been married 24 years, and were still having a great time together. It was a relationship with good communication and mutual respect. We had always encouraged each other in pursuing our goals, and in learning new things. When we started prepping, it was no different. We had plans, and sacrificed a lot in order to make the progress that we had. We had skills, were developing new ones, and were even getting our children involved. We were even developing great friendships with like minded people from our area. All of these things added up to a whole lot of hope, and if you don't have hope, you may as well pack it in.
Then my wife was diagnosed with a non operable brain tumor. Maybe the radiation and the chemo gave us a little more time, and maybe not. Ten months after the diagnosis, she was gone. All I know is that now I'm a single dad, trying to hold things together, and it's darn tough. If I didn't have the kids, I'd have no hope left at all, and no reason to seek it.
I'm not going to tell anyone to stop prepping and only live in the moment, but I do want to tell you to do as much living as you can in the moments that you have. If you have something to give, give it now. If you have been disrespectful or selfish or mean, face up to it, apologize, and work to make it right. Having someone you love is better than a two year supply of food and water and heritage seeds and a hoard of stuff that you may or may not ever need to use.
I don't know what's going to happen next, but I know it is not's nearly as important as what is happening right now.
Go out, and love.
"WAKE UP, SWORD" - Zech. 13:7
Skillman,
I can't tell you how sorry I am for your loss. Really bad things happen to good people and it hurts, and is awful. I've been saying for some time now that the situation that you are going through is exactly what SHTF looks like. And how do we prep for something like this? Please know that you are not alone, and that people are thinking of you. If you need help, please ask for it. What you're going through shouldn't have to be done alone. My good friend, and neighbour, passed away in May '16 with cancer and my family continues to offer support to his widow as she needs it. It's what "community" is all about. I won't try to sell you on all of the platitudes about how things always get better in time. I haven't walked in your shoes and just don't know. I will say, instead, that I "hope" things get better (or at least more tolerable) for you.
Best wishes,
Antsy
Needs must when the devil drives.
So sorry to hear that. I always tell everyone to live and enjoy life. Try not to stress. Also enjoy the small stuff in life. If you need help let me know. Will try my best. Know a few people personal out your way.
So sorry for your loss Skillman. Please know that we are thinking of you and your family at this difficult time.
Skillman, please accept my sincerest sympathies. I know exactly how you are feeling because I walk in your shoes too. I lost my husband (my co-prepper) to that damn cancer almost 10 years ago. I continued to raise our youngest children to adulthood .......
When he was sick undergoing treatment for nearly 2 years, we used a LOT of our stored goods because we needed to (he couldn't work and I had to look after him 24/7)- it was our SHTF time. Slowly, I've been trying to re-build my stores. NOTHING can prepare a person for such complete loss.
You can PM me if you just want to talk.....
Sorry for your sad loss of your partner Skillman. Fact is prepping to maintain our health is the number one thing we can do and still you can be struck down . We are more likely to use our storage food , and money put away for a rainy day on realistic circumstance such as a health issue or loss of a job or a divorce . There will also be brighter days ahead . But for now I hope your family can come together and hold the gift of her in their hearts .
